Men shouldn't bow down for marriage proposal

Zeynel Abidin Öztürk -
2 months ago

Updated 2 months ago.

In general, this is not the right gesture, as bowing means acknowledging that the other party is greater or superior, and sometimes apologizing. A woman and man is expected to be good in mind, insight, and wisdom—whoever does these only bows before her/his superior.

Those who tell the truth early on may be outraged, but I'm sorry. Especially those (rather females) who seek equality, then why don't you come out and say, "men, do not bow before us, because we are not superior to you."

Of course, there are many different situations in life and anyone can do whatever they want, but this is about the general behavior. Even if you don't think so, by bowing down in front of a person, you act as if you are subject to them, and waiting for them to favor you. While this may seem like a courtesy and not a big mistake, it is unnecessary behavior.

By the way, it is wrong to expect the "marriage proposal" only from the men in general. Both genders should be able to do this. Without bending over, without giving anything away. In fact, it should be just a talk, not a "request of one side" or else you're going to "bow down on some things". Here, in general, no one intends to give anyone an unrequited favor; therefore, it is not right to propose marriage by giving something. Save your gift for no reason at a different time.

If you are constantly in the situation of asking for forgiveness from the other side,  then it seems like you need to review some things. Or when you think you're making a mistake, maybe you actually aren't?

The nonsense of giving flowers or gifts without receiving them

Finally, it is weird  that especially men run to their girlfriends with flowers in their hands, as long as it is unrequited. Moreover "flower" is not a woman's thing, maybe a woman wears flowery things, but she probably doesn't wear the flower you bought. Therefore, it will be as natural for a woman to buy flowers for a man as it is for a man. If man would only like "manly" things (which is generally subjective), then why is his "girlfriend" is a girl?

Celebrating gender-related days is also nonsense, but I won't go into that. Gender is in a sense a definition, not something to celebrate; however, their success, their "rise" can be celebrated, when you celebrate this as an individual by giving flowers to your lover, you are mostly making a pointless move, and even you are humiliating yourself a little. Let's give an example for those who get angry: Of course, we celebrate (in Turkey) our liberation as a country, while it seems like we are celebrating that we are "Turkish",  in fact we do not celebrate that only; we celebrate rescuing it and keeping it alive.

Here, of course, I am again trying to draw a line "in general". People can do this and be good in their own way. That's why there's no point in opposing me with something like "I'll do it always", of course you can do whatever you want.

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True Love says 25 days ago 4/30/2022 2:43 PM
This article was written by someone who has never experienced true love. All that nonsense you said about equality, respect, and superiority goes out the window when you are in love. You don't think about any of that stuff. You just want to give the other person as much respect and honor as possible. I'm sorry if you haven't experienced it. Maybe you will some day.

Zeynel says in reply to True Love : 25 days ago 4/30/2022 5:32 PM
Well, you didn't read the article but for those who thinks in same way, here is the answer. True love is maybe 1/10.000 or less, and I already said it doesn't apply to everyone, but the most. One may choose to be even slave of another one, and this can be a really love; I'm not objecting this at all, "one" does whatever he/she wants. And I'm sorry but you're contradicting in your reply, because "You just want to give the other person as much respect and honor as possible" - I didn't say the opposite.

You're contradicting one more telling that "superiority" goes out of the window, but I'm telling in the article there wasn't any "superiority" in the first place, - so don't behave like there is. The article says enough about it, but one of reasons is even in love, there are some "balances" - you don't want to "get out of balance", _generally_. If you want, well I already said, surely it's no problem to me, but you'll probably have bigger problems one day...

When one says love throws out "equality, respect, and superiority" they're not talking about a relationship. They're talking about one-sided affection or just "volatile" so-called "love", not real one. You're never going to worship someone your entire life, expecting nothing back, and getting bad things back probably in purpose.

"Real love" is always mutual and it's going to last forever if it's "real". In fact, it's talked more than it exist.

I'm not going to tell what I'm experienced or not, but I'd just tell you, you don't have an idea about it.

Guest says 35 days ago 4/20/2022 1:56 PM
What's the shortcut to bow down to propose?

Grey says in reply to Guest : 13 days ago 5/13/2022 1:47 AM
Same question bro!

Zeynel says in reply to Guest : 35 days ago 4/20/2022 4:30 PM
I don't know any, never used one. I suppose it's easy, just bow down if you want...